I've been writing since childhood, but professionally only since spring of 2006, after learning my craft writing fanfiction for some 30 years. In earlier times I'd have been called "a lady of a certain age," old enough to know better but young enough to do it anyway. A confirmed bookaholic with a spouse of many years, I'm kept in line by a cadre of cats and two dogs who get me away from the computer and out of the house several times a day.
Until I was in my 40's, I thought romance was utterly unrealistic--a pretty dream, but little more. What I'd seen of relationships didn't seem worth the effort or the pain. A big-hearted dog and a few wonderful cats kept my own heart going, until, in the first weeks of the new millennium, I fell in love with a friend I'd known most of my adult life. How did that happen? Well, I'd just written Ransom, and I could not find anyone who was willing to read it and give me feedback. I got feedback--and the love of my life as well!
We are approaching our 17th anniversary as life-partners. In 2007, we moved to Canada, where our marriage is legally recognized. Real love isn't just a pretty dream, though. It's a lot of work--but it's worth every minute.
The stories I write are usually--not always--about two men, which may seem odd subject matter for a woman who's married to another woman. But ... well, so what? I write with my mind and heart, not with what's in my pants; I write the sort of stories I want to read. While many girls were dreaming of walking up the aisle and wondering what they'd name their children, I was dreaming of running away to sea or riding across the prairie, and wondering what I'd name my horse. I was intrigued by how people lived before cars, TV, modern medicine, and what touched my imagination were stories of adventure and adversity.
I never did get the horse... life ain't perfect. That's why we need dreams... and stories.
Love, honor, courage... those aren't male qualities or female qualities. They're the very best human qualities, and I think we all have the capacity to experience them, no matter how different we may be when it comes to sex, age, color, or any of the other tiny subcategories. We are all human, and we all have dreams.
I'd like to share some of mine, and so I write.
You can find me on Facebook -- Lee Rowan. (Not the manufacturer of storage equipment. Look for a picture of a woman with two dogs.) Warning: I am a political progressive and against fracking, Wall Street corruption, and homophobia; I'm pro environment, pro-education, pro-choice, pro-animals. I think our planet is on the verge of catastrophe and it's no time to be quiet and "nice." If you don't want to see politics on Facebook, you probably won't like my page.
A few of my favorite quotes--I don't see "god" as Marianne Williamson does, but the basic idea is sound...
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."~ Marianne Williamson
"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission."
"Education is the vaccine for violence."
~ Edward James Olmos
"Don't look for a way to make money; find a way to make a living doing what you like to do anyway. Otherwise you're just raising ransom to buy your life back."
~ Barney Hillerman (brother of mystery writer Tony Hillerman)
“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”
"Senator, when you took your oath of office, you placed your hand on the Bible and swore to uphold the Constitution. You didn't place your hand on the Constitution and swear to uphold the Bible."
~ Constitutional law professor Jamie Raskin, to a Maryland Senate committee on marriage equality
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."